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Kids First! is designed to create a collaborative spirit between parents in order to protect the child, prevent a custody battle, and reduce the stress of change. Kids
First! helps parents reduce the confusion and crises of separation, divorce, and co-parenting with relevant guidance, tips, and ideas.
The biggest problems or fear that children of divorce face
include: 1) loss of family and familiar home life, 2) anger
at one or both parents for causing the loss, 3) helplessness
and frustration at not being able to change the situation or
return to the old life, 4) watching or hearing parents
fight, and 5) responsibility for causing the break-up of the
marriage or relationship.
Therefore, it is critical that a parent understands and
sympathizes with the child's feelings and worries. If you
think about custody decisions from your child's viewpoint, a
world that has been so quickly and totally changed, you will
make the right decision. Your role as the adult is to help
your child through this time to prevent emotional hurt and
Your child must not only survive but must thrive during this
scary time of change. If you do not protect your child from
the trauma of your separation, divorce, and custody, your
child may well carry these feelings and perspectives into
future relationships, perhaps for a lifetime.
To avoid this outcome, both parents must make a commitment
to keep your child safe and shielded from disagreements.
Each parent must acknowledge to oneself and to the other
parent that the emotional and physical health of your child
is your first priority. If your child sees emotions, rules,
places and people change every day or hour, or sees one or
both parents arguing or refusing to cooperate and
collaborate, your child may feel unsafe and may suffer
Kids First! custody
agreements address the legal and physical custody of the
child, such as health, education, housing, and co-parenting
schedules. Kids First!
parenting plans deal with those issues in more detail plus
many other issues such as religion, communication, safety,
travel, childcare/daycare, drugs/alcohol, and approved
sports/activities. For example, safe behaviors can be modeled and
taught to children, Kids First! teaches common sense safety practices.